Into the Mystic

Two days past my 18 year old daughter was pulled over by a policeman and issued a warning citation.

Her infraction?

Driving with one head light. {{smiles}}

This incident was downright poetic.

Here’s why. 😉

My youngest daughter is a Libra Sun and transiting Saturn has been sitting exact on her Sun for a few weeks now.

As is true with most Libra’s, relationships are of the utmost importance to her and she cannot tolerate being alone for any significant amount of time.

As a child she wanted (needed?) constant companionship.

She preferred the companionship of myself foremost (she’s also a Taurus moon), yet if she couldn’t be right with me, then someone else had to be right by her side or meltdown was sure to occur.

For the past 18 months, she has been dating one young man exclusively and for the better part of this relationship if she couldn’t be right by his side, meltdown occurred. 🙂

Then along came Saturn………..

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My daughter as of late has been starting to the see the writing on the wall in her relationship, compliments of Saturn (restriction/responsibility/structure) transiting Libra (relationships, balance, fairness).

She began asking of herself all the right questions for Saturn transiting Libra:

“Am I getting what I need in this relationship? Am I willing to continue to feel that I give so much and receive so little? Am I willing to spend more of my life with someone that does not care for my friends nor support my hopes and dreams for myself (Libra Sun 11th house)?”

My daughter is quite sensitive and this was really hard for her these past weeks.

As her mother, I felt her pain and heartbreak as she was striving to put all of this in perspective for herself.

Yet I am so proud of her for sticking this out and knowing she had to look at all of this and that something had to change even if that change initially didn’t feel so good.

Being a Libra Sun, this was no easy task for her, doing what Saturn was asking her to do.

She resigned herself many times during these weeks to free herself of this relationship and technically broke it off.

Yet Libra’s also have a tendency to want to maintain the peace, so she would waffle on her decision each time a bit of drama would stir up from the young mans side, and was unsure as to if she was making the right decision.

As of late it appeared to her that he may be changing his previous way of being with her.

She felt that he was now seriously considering her needs and was willing to work on seeing that she also got what she needed within their relationship.

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Two days ago she went to visit him and he proceeded to have a “Me Tantrum” as he has done before.

She left his house hurt and exhausted from another round of drama and was promptly pulled over by the policeman.

Driving with one headlight.

In our neck of the woods we have a little travel game we call Spididdle.

At least that is what my daughters father always called it. {{wink}}

It goes like this: when you spot an approaching car with only one headlight working you yell out spididdle and the person that scores the highest spididdles wins.

Well this night my daughter had a policeman call spididdle on her and now the writing was really on the wall and she had to acknowledge that not only was she behind the wheel a spididdle car but that she was also driving a spididdle relationship.

Now, while scoring a high number of spididdles in the road game is desirable, scoring a high number of spididdles in the relationship game, is not!

This warning issued was an affirmation that she just couldn’t continue to drive her car (literal and figurative) with only one headlight for very long and get away with it.

You see a healthy relationship is like a well serviced automobile and if there is only one headlight functioning, the car (relationship), is just not going to function optimally.

If you are the only headlight operating in that vehicle and you think you are going to continue to light the path of that vehicle (relationship) alone, I encourage you to reconsider that notion, for here’s what is likely to occur:

You are going to power down fast and eventually completely burn out.

Better to reserve your Light for a relationship that includes the Light of another, full in and at max power with you.

After the police incident my daughter is no longer waffling..she has gotten her affirmation and is moving forward to next, whatever that may be.

She understands the lesson she has had and I have assured her that I feel she has done very well.

I have also shared with her that I truly believe she will now be able to welcome one into her life that is willing and able to be the other headlight for their car (relationship) together. 😉

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Driving with One Headlight?

Hoping the other light will Juice back up or just stalling on calling it Spididdle?

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