To truly forgive one’s self, or an other, one must have an understanding of how one has been served by an experience in which forgiveness is now sought.
Forgiveness is not an act of granting approval to one’s self or an other for an action that was harmful in some manner.
Forgiveness is an act of Completion.
Forgiveness is the act of releasing oneself from a lesson, now achieved.
Forgiveness is the acknowledgment of one’s smaller being to Source, that one has come to an understanding of the lesson of a challenging experience and has now reaped the knowledge of the experience that was of value in bringing growth to one’s Greater Being.
Forgiveness is also the releasing of that which was not of value to the Greater Being, from within the experience.
Those on the Journey to Wholeness via the path of Self-Healing, often become frustrated when an experience they feel they have found closure upon through forgiveness, arises once again for them, sometimes years later.
Often current life experiences that precipitate a need of coming to the state of forgiveness are manifestations of a much deeper root situation.
If you find a situation in your life reopened that you felt you had closed and achieved forgiveness within, by acknowledging this as an opportunity for deeper healing, you allow your Greater Self to lead you to Higher Understandings bringing forth Compassion from which the Highest Expression of Forgiveness springs.
A subject that in many ways I feel has become almost taboo to speak on in public venues, and even in close circles.
Mention anger in certain company and you will likely find yourself “Loved, Lighted, and Blessed” to a degree you will feel like you’ve been mistaken for the Blessed Mother herself. ((smiles))
I adore the Blessed Mother and yet apparently I have a long way to go to Sainthood for all of that Blessing others have gifted me with to attempt to diffuse my anger at times, well, it just didn’t work.
It has also been recommended to me a million and one times that I just ‘let it go’ and while I agree 100% percent with the letting it go and I strongly advocate Release Work in self-healing, to let something go you first must have some idea of what that something is.
Hence, I’ve had to learn to embrace my anger and listen to that which it was speaking to me to then be able to master and redirect this emotion/energy of anger just as I do with all emotions/energies if I find them manifesting in an undesirable form.
The first step to learning to utilize your anger, or any energy for that matter, is acknowledging that it really does exist.
The second step is not judging the emotion/energy as bad or harmful for it is simply something you are feeling at the moment and does not necessarily identify who you truly are.
No energy or emotion is bad or harmful in and of itself, these energies that comprise the emotional scale are merely tools, and there is nothing to fear in utilizing these tools we were gifted with for navigating our journeys within this human experience.
We currently live in societies that I feel have made it quite unpopular to express “undesirable” emotions in a healthy manner and we have been encouraged to put a shiny veneer on everything and anything, including ourselves, and to not allow anything deemed ugly in some manner to be displayed for the view of others.
Some might argue that I am incorrect in my statement citing the premise that we view lot’s of emotion daily on news reels, tabloid venues, and reality-based TV shows and yes!, we do see lot’s of something in those arena’s yet in many cases it is not what I would call healthy emotional expression.
Anger, is an emotion, it is not an action.
Anger is an energy and actions come forth from one applying their Will to an energy.
Anger is one of many energies categorized as emotion and energies are neither good nor bad, they just ARE, until they are utilized by one’s Will and directed for manifestation therefore any energy can be utilized in any manner.
Energy-workers understand this quite well and simply term it transmuting energies and the first step in transmuting energies is to first drop the label off an energy and just feel the vibration.
Energies have many different levels of mass and the more compacted the mass, the denser an energy feels to the human system, hence the labels of low and high vibration/energies.
Anger just happens to be a more dense energy and can pack a real punch to someone that is not accustomed to working energies or does not find the intensity appealing, and yet the quantity of energy contained within anger if utilized in the proper manner, can deliver huge results for beneficial purposes.
By acknowledging the presence of one’s anger and by not denying the existence of this energy (which in effect will only repress it and will not make it go away) you can take steps to utilize your anger as the fuel for meaningful purposes and lessen the possibility of your anger having negative ramifications for yourself and/or others.
Today marks Winter Solstice in the Northern Hemisphere and in most societies this week is embraced as a holy week and is celebrated in a myriad of forms, dependent upon one’s personal beliefs, or those of which belong to the society into which one was born.
I personally, have never felt a personal attachment to any holiday of note, of any culture.
It is not that I am adverse to holidays celebrations, and in fact when I was raising my daughters, I quite joyfully participated in any celebration that was of importance to them.
You see, until recent years, I have had a walk that necessitated developing a great deal of optimism to roll with the challenges.
I suppose I learned a very long time ago, somewhere within childhood, to accept change as a constant and to celebrate each little event that felt good.
I have learned to embrace challenges out of the realization, that at least for some (myself included), challenges are a way of life and no matter how much effort you put into avoiding them or attempting to wish them away, you find time and time again, the only way up is through.
Yet too, I have learned that when one stops denying the existence of their personal challenges, and faces them head on with determination and courage, those same challenges eventually become one’s greatest achievements.
When you enter this world with an abundance of challenges, I feel many of us learn quite quickly that to sustain ourselves, we must celebrate daily, anything and everything that is Good and nurturing unto our Souls.
When faced with challenges, many are sent into reeling into ‘survival mode’, out of a fear of change.
Yet change is inevitable, and is ever occuring, regardless if one is able to recognise it at it’s most microcosmic levels.
The nature of change always brings challenges and challenges always catalyze change.
When you truly come to understand the dynamics of these cycles, and recognize that to evolve, we must embrace the cycle’s of change and challenge fearlessly, knowing, that this is the way we grow and become more, you suddenly find that you are living a life in constant celebration and awe, of this entire process experienced within our human journey’s.
Suddenly you do not wish to wait, for affirmed ‘special dates’, to celebrate and be joyful, loving and thankful.
Each and every moment, even the challenging one’s, are filled with a delicious prized center.
We are now, as a global society, in the midst of a cycle of accelerated change and challenge.
There are innumerable filters through which to perceive that which is now upon us, and everywhere you turn now there are many that are trying to explain this period and what it is all about, through their personal filters.
I feel for the most this is a good thing for we all resonate in different ways.
For each that is seeking understanding through their personal filter, there is someone that is offering knowledge, through the same filter.
I personally, feel I know what I need to know for myself, and on occasion for others if I am to be of service to them in some form.
I feel no need to really know, the “ONE and ONLY TRUTH”.
In all honesty I feel that is a fool’s game to seek to know this “ONE TRUTH” in exclusion of all else you could be experiencing and benefiting of now, as there are many, many truths upon this plane, and much that is labeled as truth is merely a personal truth subjective to the one experiencing it.
Sure, I have my personal Truths, and I am in constant awareness that others have theirs also.
I feel the best we can likely do, is to live our days the best we can by standing within our truths, and by being tolerant of the truth of others, by acknowledging that not a one of us, consciously is in awareness of the Whole of It.
If and when, I should be enlightened to the One Truth, well, I am sure I will be beyond blessed and thankful, yet as of now, that has not occurred for me.
So I take each step, each moment, each day of these changing and challenging times..and I walk it through, with the most grace that I am capable of.
I keep my eyes on what is straight ahead of me and apply myself to what I can do NOW, and do not allow myself to be concerned with what the next moment, may or may not bring, and I trust with all of myself, that All is Well, when I stay on this course of action.
And I celebrate, each and every day..I celebrate as I dance, as I sing, as I share laughter with another.
I celebrate by listening, truly listening, when another has something their heart and soul wishes to share.
I celebrate the smiles gifted to me by ‘strangers’ at the grocery and the company of the birds that visit me as I take in a few moments of the winter air on my deck.
These things I celebrate, and all that is good, and allow none of it to slip by without being savored and noted.
These things, nourish and sustain the Soul.
These things, we bank, and draw upon to keep us whole, as we navigate the challenges that catalyze change.
My catalyst for sharing this today came of my need the past few days, to acknowledge this holiday season in some manner on my site, and to extend my wishes of a joyful holiday to my readers.
Yet I just could not find a manner of doing so, that I felt really embodied what I wanted to offer as greetings and blessings, to the many different personal preferences and paths represented by those that partake in my offerings here.
So this is what came forth above, and I simply wish to conclude with this:
My heart and best wishes are with all on your celebratory days.
I hope that you find peace and joy, in your every moment, even those of challenge.
And may you find the courage and strength to walk your path with the utmost grace possible, for yourself and all others, through this Blessed Season of Change.
Saturn (boundaries) is now transiting Libra, the sign of relationship, balance and justice, and boundaries in relationship have become the hot topic of the season.
Boundaries and relationship go hand-in-hand and you just can’t have one without the other.
As Saturn transiting Libra is a collective influence, unless you plan to become a Hermit, this is an area everyone has to come to terms with these next 2+ years.
As I have stated previously in other articles I do not see boundaries as ever being about the other person.
Boundaries are always personal and solely about you.
When lacking healthy boundaries we are often inclined to acting out the victim archetype and playing the ‘blame game’ for we feel that everything that occurs in their life is the result of an others actions.
There is no happiness, joy, nor self-fulfillment within the state of victim-hood and it is not a pleasant place to be .
Victim-hood is the residence of stress, anxiety and anger.
Victim-hood harbors guilt, shame and self-disappointment within it’s walls.
Yet if you find yourself residing within victim-hood, you can make the choice to step out of those walls, and it really is much easier than you may believe.
I am a firm believer that, “No One or Thing can cause us harm nor control us in any manner unless we allow it to be so”.
This, is where boundaries come in.
When assisting clients in the area of boundary development I often offer a visualization that makes it quite easy to immediately start building boundaries in your life and enforcing them with others, even if you have previously struggled with understanding or utilizing boundaries and are currently feeling dis-empowered your relationships.
When you feel good, and are in a vibration such as Joy, Passion, Optimism and/or Contentment, it is a clear indicator that you are on course, in your path.
This is an experience, be it of a solitary nature or shared with an other, that you want to continue to embrace, for it shall serve you well.
When you feel poorly, and are in a vibration such as Frustration, Anger, Despair and/or Worry, it is a clear indicator that you are off course, in your path.
This is an experience, be it of a solitary nature or shared with an other, that in it’s current form, is not of your best interest and will not serve you well.
By embracing the emotional scale instead of denying it, you are availing yourself to a valuable navigational system that shall assist you in steering through these currents, that we term The Human Experience.
Master Your Emotions and enjoy smoother Sailing.
Allow Your Emotions to Master You and the waters shall be ever turbulent.
Listen to Your Emotions, allow them to share their Wisdom, then act upon the Wisdom they have shared, and chart your course accordingly.
Have courage and trust, in Yourself and your ability, to be the Fearless Master, of Your Ship.
Saturn is currently transiting Libra, bringing to center stage the issue of boundaries and balance, within relationships.
Some seem to be born with an understanding of what boundaries are, and utilize them with ease, throughout their lives.
Others, myself included, have had to work quite diligently to understand the meaning of boundaries and to utilize them in a manner that is non-projective.
Years past, I attended a Spiritual School of Healing for a time.
It was the philosophy of the founders of this school, that to become an effective conduit for healing for others, one must first heal, thyself.
When I entered this school, one of the issues that was constantly stressed to me during our self-work sessions, was BOUNDARIES.
Quite honestly, back then, I didn’t have any.
The word, meant nothing to me whatsoever, no matter how many times it was defined to me.
Yet others could see, even if I could not, that I was in desperate need of boundaries, and I am thankful for their daily enforcement of the necessity of developing boundaries for myself.
Many wise souls planted seeds with me back then, and while I did not have those seeds sprout until after my attendance period at this school, they did eventually come fully to flower, and I am so very thankful for those that cared enough about me, to badger me ceaselessly, on boundaries.
Setting boundaries really is about you, not, about any other.
I do not perceive boundaries as “walls or shields”, as I believe is quite a common perception in the collective.
If you truly have strong boundaries, and maintain them, there is never a need to deflect or prevent an energy of any nature from entering your space, nor is there a need to concern yourself with how another is utilizing their personal energy.
Boundaries are, a clean and concise definition, of your personal space.
They allow you to set within your energy patterns, what comes in, what goes out, and how you wish to utilize or bypass any energy incoming, regardless of if you should label it as “negative or positive, high or low”.
It simply does not matter, for you yourself, through boundaries, determine the qualities of any energy within your space.
Keep your space tidy, and do not trespass the personal space of an other, and you shall master boundaries amazingly fast!
Following is an article I wrote a while ago, and I feel it is in context to developing and maintaining boundaries, and is an issue that tends to be overlooked, when doing depth work in the boundaries arena, for oneself.
If you are interested in developing better boundaries in your life, this article may be helpful to you, as there are many subjects that are not always easily identified as being directly connected to the area of boundaries, and I feel this is one of them.
If you have a lot of challenging aspects in your chart concerning relationships with others, or, if you are loaded up on Pisces, 12th house, or Neptune aspects, you too, should find this article of benefit. Service-oriented Virgo, this also could serve you.
I was at the local grocery store a few years past.
This was a point in my life, when I was married and the mother to two young daughters.
Life was busy. So busy, that if I actually got 5 hours of sleep total in a day, I considered myself lucky.
For the better part of my marriage, both my husband and I, worked to provide for the family.
It was usually he, whom clocked more hours at his place of business, than I at mine.
Yet the trade off was one that I, generally, carried the majority of children, family and household duties.
There were never enough hours in the day.
Lists made faithfully for daily responsibilities, were always certain to have at least 1/2 of the daily listed responsibilites, delegated to the next day.
Little time was allotted for relaxation and play and generally was considered reserved for an annual family vacation.
Yet even a family vacation brought responsibilities for myself.
We were on a budget, and this often necessitated staying in rental homes where we could save money by performing our own housekeeping, eliminating the need for dining at expensive restaurants and paying for laundry services.
While both my husband and I were receiving nice income’s at the time, I never considered ourselves well-off.
We were not poor either.
We, like most others, were “getting by”.
Did we actually need two incomes?
Yes and no.
We thought we did.
Now that I am older, I see where we could have made different choices, chosen to let go of this here or do that instead there.
Yet hindsight is often 20/20, as the quip goes, and with age comes a wisdom that often eludes us in the chaos of raising a family and doing Life.
We learn as we go.
Hopefully, we apply ourselves to our learning of life lessons, and do the best we can at any given point with what we have acquired in wisdom before then.
I reflect on those years now, and there are so many things I wish someone had pointed out to me then, that would have made it all a little easier.
Here now, I share a story on a lesson I received that made an enormous difference in my life.
This lesson, has become a tool for my daily living.
This tool affords one the opportunity to lighten up your baggage, and to free up energy for better usage on your life.
I have shared this with others through counsel, and many have seen remarkable improvement in their stress levels and quality of daily living by simply taking the time to consider this parable, and apply it accordingly to their individual circumstance. (more…)
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